Tokyo - Epilogue
So, if you’ll recall from my ramblings in the prologue, I am really not fond of traveling in groups. The biggest reason for this is that rarely does the group ever completely get along. The only way for this to happen is if you somehow end up with a group of people who just seem to do their own thing, on their own time, and join the group whenever they feel its necessary. Amazingly, that seemed to be the case with this group.
Outside of our “class” meetings, everyone pretty much did their own thing. Some went in singles, others in groups, but all in all there seemed to be no arguments about where to go and what to do. If someone was doing something that seemed interesting to someone else, then they tagged along. If a group was going somewhere and someone wanted to go with, they jumped on board. There was very little, if any, arguments about where to go and what to do.
That said, I spent most of my time alone. There were a couple times where I went out with some of the others, but after hearing stories of their subsequent adventures, it made me glad that I decided to hang out in Yanaka instead. With most of them looking to party and bar hop, I felt like I would have been wasting my time. In their defense, however, they are all a bit younger and that may largely account for their seeking to party and my seeking out slower, more intimate settings. I am more interested in making real personal connections and the kind of connections afforded by club and bar hopping are often superficial at best. The slower pace of Yanaka afforded just such an opportunity.
As for opportunities, Django was just such a place. I would be lying if I labeled anything else as the highlight of my trip. Django left me with such a warm feeling. That feeling you get when you find a place you know can return anytime and you’ll always be welcomed with open arms. Yeah, that feeling. It wasn’t so much the place, or the music, or the food or drink. Anyone with any sense would tell you that the place is cramped, the music is loud, and the food and drink are rather pricey. None of that mattered to me. The people I met there, musicians, patrons, the owner, all made the place worth more than any price I could have paid just to be there. From the first night, the owner, Koji Haraguchi, welcomed me in and showed me hospitality in more ways than I could ever repay. I hope to keep in close contact with Koji as the years move on and will make an effort to visit him as often as I am in Tokyo.
On the other hand, there is the singer, Kyoko Yokomae, who also holds a special place in my Tokyo/Yanaka/Django experience. Whether our meeting was anything more than a meeting of like minds, a result of too much drink, or something more, I can not easily say. Whichever the case, a connection was made, and whether that connection will persist, is something that only time can tell. Regardless of the outcome, I feel like I learned a lot about the influence or, more accurately, the lack of influence that verbal communication has on making connections with people. Although my grasp of Japanese is minimal, if even considered existent, and, likewise, her grasp of English was only marginally better, we were able to carry on conversations which covered a range of complex topics and ideas. This is more than I can say for many of the conversations I’ve had in my own language over the past few years.
Amidst all of the topics of learning, this trip has shown me once again that uprooting myself, jumping headfirst into a completely different culture, and meeting new people is a deep down component of what makes me tick. This trip rejuvenated me in many ways. Since returning from China in ‘04, I had longed for the chance to travel. I missed the every day interactions. I missed walking down the street surrounded by people who didn’t know or speak my language. I missed the feeling of walking into a tiny restaurant on the street with no idea what they were serving, ordering the first thing I saw just to see if I could say it, and then striking up a broken conversation with the owner/cook. Most of all, I missed building the relationships with those same shop owners as well as the countless others I came into contact with from day to day.
The shop owners, the students, the teachers, these are the people that make my trips worthwhile. Without them, I would just be a presence, taking up space. Without them, I would know nothing about the culture. It’s when I begin to interact with them and engage them that I begin to learn. I learn about them, their friends, and their family. This interaction, this exchange, is what drives me. Hopefully, it won’t be long before I can return to it again.
